Breakup Survival Tips - Avoid These 3 Ridiculous Mistakes If You Want Your Ex Boyfriend to Be Yours

Surviving a breakup requires you to transform the way you think and act on a daily basis. If you just let the situation overwhelm you, it's easy to get trapped in a funk that will constantly repel your ex and make him glad that he's no longer in your life. But if you take good actions and avoid the most common mistakes women make when wanting to get back with their ex, you'll find that surviving the breakup is easier than you imagined.

Make sure to avoid the following 3 mistakes if you really want to get your ex back:

1. Focusing On Your Emotions

A breakup brings up emotions that probably make you think the world is over. But the good news is that life will go on no matter how bad things are right now. You're doing yourself a huge disservice by letting your emotions control how you react to this situation. You are in control of how you feel at any given moment.
The best thing you can do for yourself is substitute activities for your emotions. When you're wallowing in your emotions, it's easy to let hours, days, and weeks pass where you do nothing productive at all. But when you decide to take control and choose actions over thought, you allow yourself to become a better person. This is key because your ex won't be tempted to get back with you if all you do is cry and beg him to take you back.

2. Hanging Out With Unhelpful Friends

While your girlfriends may seem like they're there to help you, you would be mistaken. They mean well of course but listening to you talk about your emotions only lets your emotions have more voice. All of us have friends like these. Be honest with yourself who these friends are. Then, choose the ones who you know are more interested in spending time with you doing fun, life affirming activities.

3. Calling Your Ex Too Soon and Too Often

After a breakup, you probably feel that there's a large hole inside of you now that your ex boyfriend is gone. But the worst mistake you can make is to try and fill that whole by constantly calling, texting, and IMing your ex. He doesn't want to hear how hard you're taking the breakup. It will only make him believe that he made the right decision by dumping you.

Play hard to get at the beginning of the breakup. Don't answer the phone as soon as it rings if you see his name jump up on your screen. Chances are, if he wants to get back together, it's not going to be through a phone call. Don't expect the magic call to come. Instead, occupy your time with activities that make your life better. When you do start to initiate contact again, you'll have a lot more things to talk about than your emotions or what your girlfriends said about him.